Keeping Kids in Check

There's a lot of controversy on how we raise our kids these days. Are we really teaching them about life when we reward their every action? Are we teaching them to do their best if every sport they participate in rewards them just for participating? At what age should they realize that some kids are going to be better and trying their best is important but will not get them an award? We are warned about over complimenting them, this is a hard one. Should we be realistic in our expectations of their abilities and comfort them when they fall short or should we always tell them they are the best no matter what? If you're worried about over praising your child, just make sure there is a sibling close by to put them in check. Here was a conversation we had this afternoon. Hubby and I were on our laptops and the kids were playing with playdoh...

Puddin Pop: Mommy, am I pretty?
Me: You're the prettiest Princess in the world.
Puddin Pop: Daddy, am I pretty?
Daddy: You're the prettiest girl I know.
Puddin Pop: Boogie, am I pretty?
Boogie: You look like mud.
...and it starts over
Puddin Pop: Mommy, am I pretty?
Me: Yes baby, you are a very pretty little girl.
Puddin Pop: Daddy, am I pretty.
Daddy: Yes, you're my pretty girl.
Puddin Pop: Boogie, am I pretty?
(silence)
Puddin Pop: Am I pretty?
(silence)
Daddy: Boog, you're sister is talking to you.
Boogie: No. You look like a big pile of mud.
Puddin Pop: Okay then. I'm not pretty.

and just like that she goes back to playing with her playdoh with no emotion at all. She's not upset. She's not mad at her brother. Makes you wonder who she believes.