First of all. If you're wondering how the other morning went with Puddin Pop and the "new Mommy"...she didn't go. When the van pulled in the drive way I told her someone was here for her. (If you don't know what I'm talking about, see post below). Anyway. She saw the van but didn't know who it was. When she saw my friend and her little boy she jumped up and down saying "He's here, he's here." She was excited because the little boy was supposed to come and play the week before but couldn't. That's another reason I didn't tell her..just in case. So the "new mommy" tells Puddin Pop she's here to pick her up and she just gets a smile and a stare. When she asks PP why she's not coming or getting ready my darling, precious, baby girl, shrugged her shoulders and in true female fashion simply stated, "I changed my mind."
There's a fine line between teaching independence and not wanting to "let go". I remember with my first born I was ready for him to start holding his own bottle at 6 months old. He was a grazer and would suck and chew on the nipple. It felt as if just as he finished one bottle it was time for another. I tried my hardest to teach him this skill. My second born (and last) was a different story. I remember holding her at 11 months, giving her a bottle she was able to give herself and thinking "I'll never have this again."
When I look to the future there are so many lessons to be taught to these two young children and I can only hope that we make the right choices for each of them. Knowing when they are ready for the next step and trusting our instincts when we're not sure they are completely ready. Dealing with the upset one who doesn't understand why their sibling can do something they can't...or couldn't at that age. Being mindful of each of their feelings but sticking to what we think is best.
I think down the line when it's time for them to go to college. Do we provide them with the money to attend? Part of the money? Do we assist them in attaining a college student loan? Will it be the same for both? Do we encourage one to stay closer to home while encouraging the other to travel far away? We won't know their true potentials unless we provide them with the tools and a safe place to experiment with all that interests them. It's our job to expose them to as many different things as we can. To support them in their choices...even if it's to move out...at 3.