While watching The New Adventures of Old Christine (that show cracks me up) last week I was thinking what I would do in similar situations. Her son, Ritchie, is invited to a dance by the most popular girl in school. Christine takes this as affirmation that "they" are now popular. She would go to any lengths to be in the popular crowd. Even the Mommies have different clicks.
Honestly, I can't imagine my kids not being liked. I don't necessarily envision them in the most popular groups, but can't imagine them being outcasts, or constantly picked on. I see them as well liked within all different groups and kind to everyone. That is my hope. It's not something I worry about. I guess it's just what I expect. Not an expectation I put on them (except the being kind to everyone part) but just an expectation of what I know. Does that make sense? I guess I just envision them loving school and their friends as much as I did. I'm not sure what I'll do if this isn't the case. I'm pretty sure I won't meddle. I won't call other parents to find out why their kid doesn't like mine...I don't think. I would like to believe that I could help my children adjust to any situation, helping them rather than trying to change other's opinions.
As far as the popular mommies group...I could care less...if there even is a thing. There was a time (in my younger days) where I desired being a "hot" mommy. You know, the one all the High School boys talked about. The one who did whatever possible to look good. Went to the tanner, used a thermogenic fat burner and worked out. Never left the house without looking great . I thought I could pull it all off naturally...without all that work. Then I had Boog...at 35. Not only did I realize it wouldn't be a possibility, it wasn't what was important.
The kids are growing up. I have my life and they will soon have theirs. I do not need to be in the "Best Mommies at School" group. I have my own friends. I've always had a problem with "friends by association". I like to find my own friends. I don't have to be your best friend because our kids are friends. We can be friendly and we might become good friends, if we have stuff in common. I'm just not one to fake friendships because others think I should be friends with you. That's just not who I am.
*I have been hired by Warner Bros WB Word division to raise awareness for New Adventures of Old Christine on CBS