Mome reads Mommy, My daughter's way to spell it when she was younger... It stuck. My son calls me Mome... just like it looks. I now sign all my notes to them "Love, Mome". It's our inside secret and makes them smile. I always want them to smile.

Monday, December 6, 2010

The Christmas Proposal

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A long, long time ago I was dating this guy.  We had been dating for just over two years and had never even so much as had a minor argument.  We broke up.  Feeling that the relationship needed a little spice (or space to see other people) it ended.  The break-up lasted for 5 months before the guy realized how awesome I was and came back....and I let him.

A couple months later we were spending Christmas at his parents house.  He kept hinting at this awesome gift he had gotten me.  It was just before my 29th birthday and, more than anything, I wanted the one sparkling thing that all girls in a serious relationship want.  Talks of rings had been made (by him to others) even before we broke up.  I'm guessing he just scared the shit out of himself.

We woke up, had breakfast with his parents and started in on the gift opening.  His parents go overboard, every year, so opening gifts takes hours.  When we appeared to be done I noticed that I hadn't received that got the attention on would think an "awesome" gift would receive.  I was asked to step outside so my final gift could be brought in.  What?  How hard could it be to hide a ring?  I obliged and went outside.  A few minutes later I was welcomed back in and in the middle of the living room I saw  this...


Yep.  He had bought me my very first, very own, computer. 

He then proceeded to stand up and give some speech about how much he loved me, wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, and, if I wanted, would return the computer and buy the ring I REALLY wanted.  How does one respond to that?  In front of his parents?  AWKWARD.  I requested that we take a walk.  I explained that while I appreciated the fact that he would take the computer back and get me a ring, the fact that he had wanted to get me a computer told me that that is what I should accept.  He seemed a little upset that I didn't accept his "proposal".  Really?  I LOVED that computer.

For the record.  It only took another 2.5 years to get the actual ring.

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24 comments:

  1. I would have kept the computer too. Like someone once said, "Never look a gift computer in the mouse". I don't know who that was but I think I got it right.

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  2. No way.

    1. He gave you a computer

    2. in front of his parents

    3. and then told you it would be okay if you returned the computer for an engagement ring?

    Wow. If that happened to me in 2005 or later I would have taken the computer. Before that I wasn't really into the internet. Hard to believe, but true.

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  3. The computer was a nice gift, I must admit, but like cardiogirl said, the No. 2 and No. 3. Ouch. That is the worst.

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  4. I think I would have accepted the computer, with a promise of the ring to follow ASAP :)

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  5. I think I would have accepted the computer, with a promise of the ring to follow ASAP :)

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  6. I would have kept the computer too. Like someone once said, "Never look a gift computer in the mouse". I don't know who that was but I think I got it right.

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  7. That was the idea. 2.5 years doesn't exactly fall into my "asap" time frame:)

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  8. Loved the computer. It was the gift I didn't even know I wanted:)

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  9. The half ass proposal was hard to respond to with everyone all teary eyed...except me. I wanted a ring...until I got the computer...then I wanted BOTH.

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  10. Exactly how I heard it;)

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  11. I would have been hard pressed to return the computer in exchange for the ring, even if I really, really wanted to marry him. I think the problem was that he made it sound like an either/or kind of thing. You can have the computer OR a ring.

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  12. Now you have both - PERFECT! We really have to give men a lot of leverage, they seem to be gift-givingly challenged.

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  13. Know how guys think, I have a feeling he was pretty sure the computer wouldn't be returned. It gave him an extra couple of years to man up and get your that diamond ring. I wonder what his reaction would have been if you had taken him up on his offer?

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  14. Julie @MomspectiveDecember 6, 2010 at 5:47 PM

    Dude, we're bloggers. I'd totally take a computer. Rings just weigh the finger down when we type ;)

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  15. At least you didn't have to pay for your own gift and go buy it like I did. I must admit though the presentation was lacking. I don't think proposals (even half baked ones should be made in public). How in the world did you manage that talk on the walk? And more importantly, how did he manage to stay with you 2.5 years until he gave you the ring?

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  16. Now, that is an odd proposal! My human and her boyfriend have been together since 1994 (two times my lifetime!) and she just got the ring last Christmas. She picked it out herself, though - antique-look setting, white gold with an amethyst. I would have preferred the ring off the top of a can of cat food myself - it's tastier.

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  17. Had to wait for the right time. Best way.

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  18. yea, that is kind of weird. Glad it worked out in the end however! Hope your new year is a good one. :)

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  19. I know. Now that we're older and wiser, I totally do my own shopping. I spend less than he would and get exactly what I want.

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  20. So you'll be posting about a wedding soon? Or did that already happen?

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  21. yea, that is kind of weird. Glad it worked out in the end however! Hope your new year is a good one. :)

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