Dear Ex MIL,
I know you care dearly for your grandchildren. I appreciate everything you have and continue to do for them.
I understand that you feel my style of parenting isn't up to your Christian standards, and I'm okay with that. I am not okay with you constantly bashing my parenting style to my children and to other adults in their presence. You are not building an allegiance with them, you are alienating your relationship with them. These are two of the smartest, well-adjusted under the circumstances, and confident children I know and I refuse to let you make them think less of themselves because they are not being raised the way you think they should be.
I am always looking for better ways to do things, to better myself, and to be the best single parent I can be. If you want to share some wisdom or thoughts you have, please contact me. Using the children to get your thoughts to me doesn't ever send a clear message. Their interpretations leave you on the short side of the conversation and makes them feel like they have to choose sides. They do not.
You can expect whatever you want from them while they are at your house. I make that clear to them. Grandma's house, Grandma's Rules. You can NOT dictate to them how things happen at my house. Period. It's laughable that you try.
I understand that you have raised a child and therefore think you know what's best. Maybe you should revisit that thought.
Your grown child lives with you and is reliant on you for his every basic need.
Maybe your way wasn't the right way.
Maybe my way isn't the right way.
I get to choose.
I'll adapt as I see fit.
We all love our children and think they are they greatest ever.
I don't love my children any less that you love yours.
I am raising them to be able to stand on their own and be productive members of society.
We can compare notes when you have achieved the same.
Sincerely,
Your Ex DIL
I know you care dearly for your grandchildren. I appreciate everything you have and continue to do for them.
I understand that you feel my style of parenting isn't up to your Christian standards, and I'm okay with that. I am not okay with you constantly bashing my parenting style to my children and to other adults in their presence. You are not building an allegiance with them, you are alienating your relationship with them. These are two of the smartest, well-adjusted under the circumstances, and confident children I know and I refuse to let you make them think less of themselves because they are not being raised the way you think they should be.
I am always looking for better ways to do things, to better myself, and to be the best single parent I can be. If you want to share some wisdom or thoughts you have, please contact me. Using the children to get your thoughts to me doesn't ever send a clear message. Their interpretations leave you on the short side of the conversation and makes them feel like they have to choose sides. They do not.
You can expect whatever you want from them while they are at your house. I make that clear to them. Grandma's house, Grandma's Rules. You can NOT dictate to them how things happen at my house. Period. It's laughable that you try.
I understand that you have raised a child and therefore think you know what's best. Maybe you should revisit that thought.
Your grown child lives with you and is reliant on you for his every basic need.
Maybe your way wasn't the right way.
Maybe my way isn't the right way.
I get to choose.
I'll adapt as I see fit.
We all love our children and think they are they greatest ever.
I don't love my children any less that you love yours.
I am raising them to be able to stand on their own and be productive members of society.
We can compare notes when you have achieved the same.
Sincerely,
Your Ex DIL
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