Why is everyone I know falling apart? Hubster has his chronic back problems, another friend is suffering from severe joint pain, and now my baby brother has to have neck surgery to repair a couple of herniated discs. They haven't yet scheduled the surgery but are in the process. They'd like to get it done within the next 30 days since he is currently losing feeling in his arms and fingers. I know he's anxious and I've offered to go down and stay with him for a couple days right after the surgery. When I told Hubster of my plans he said "We can talk about it." I'm sure he didn't mean for it to sound like it did. I'm not asking for permission. My brother needs me and I'll be there for him. I'll just have to make arrangements for the kids while I'm gone. I guess that's what he meant. We'll talk about the arrangements. Right?